Thursday, June 23, 2011

Encouragement

I've read so many honest blog posts lately about us bloggers comparing ourselves to each other. Looking at how many followers someone else has, their beautiful blog layout or wondering why they get more comments than you. While this hasn't been something I have struggled with regarding my blog, I think it is something we can all relate to. I'm grateful I have found a community of women who really open their hearts to their readers. 
This got me thinking...why not take this a step further? An easy way to stop comparing ourselves to each other  is to encourage others. Encouraging others takes the focus off ourselves. I am blessed daily by comments like these...

"i love u friend, just thought u should know :)"

"just wanted to let you know that your post touched me.even made me cry. i don't think it was an accident that the same night my husband and i had a fight i read your post and was reminded how i was to treat my husband and see him through the eyes of Christ. not my own. (very hard by the way). when i saw the title of your post i even ignored it a couple times. thank you for your words. i am your newest follower :)"


These are from women I have never met face to face and yet they take the time to write me these loving words. They take the time to let me know that something I have written spoke to them.  My goal is to do the same for others. I rejoice in the successes of my friends and I pray for them when they are hurting. If you find yourself playing the "comparison game" go read some of the amazing words you can find in the blogging community and leave them some love.
I have a wonderful circle of family and friends around me for which I am always thankful. Family and friends who bring me meals when someone is sick, or take my kids when I need a little break. Now God had blessed me with this wider circle of wonderful women who show so much love to each other! I never expected this when I started blogging.  We share our loves, fears, families and just the fun little things with each other and I love every minute. I've sought out advice, given advice and made some true sisters in Christ.  Thank you friends for walking this journey with me and showing me such grace.

"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another."    Romans 12:15-16




Linked up with Casey and Walking in His Grace.

PS: I'm going to try and sleep peacefully tonight even though this post has no pictures. OCD kickin in. 
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34 comments:

Caroline G. said...

I absolutely love this post! such an encouragement!!

Heart n Soul said...

Agree with you 100% :)

Jess said...

Wonderful.
I love it when the comments are sincere.
Excited to look around some more.

Vivian said...

I couldn't agree with you more..and finding you was one of the best things to my blogging life :)

Kristy said...

I LOVE this post!! And I LOVE your blog! I found you through The Wiegand's and am so glad that I did! You are such an inspiration and I can't wait to follow along and read more!!
XOXO,
Kristy

Blessed Momma said...

Great post, especially for a new blogger like me! I found you via one wonderful sister in Christ, Casey and look forward to meeting many more sweet, encouraging bloggers.

Changing Lanes said...

Yes, I don't understand negativity ~ when involved with something that is a choice. It makes me feel good to share my story as well as encourage others and in some way do something for other bloggers. In my life so many people have done things for me ~ lots of times financially (and since I can't necessarily do that for people) encouraging and doing what I can...feels like giving back. Not to mention setting THE example. Love you friend! xoxox

Sarah B. said...

Spot on!!! Let's build each other up instead of playing destructive comparison games :D

chelsea {joy} said...

i love your heart. thanks for sharing this. i think it's a great idea :) my heart feels so encouraged by the group of women that i have found. i love it that we have never met each other, yet we can encourage one another like we've been friends for years :) thanks for being such a blessing to me!

Alyss said...

Love it and love you. Cool points. You're the best!

katie said...

So true. Blogging has been such a blessing to me. I love the friendships if has created.

Andrea @ Keepin it Thrifty said...

AGREE 100% You have ALWAYS been such a good blog friend! Thank YOU for being so sweet and nice..

XOXO

Lyryn said...

Amen sister! Great post!

april@gingerbread said...

yes yes and yes....encouraging words are better than comparisons....you are wonderful....

Krista said...

This is a wonderful post. I started my blog for myself but end up finding some really inspiring ladies to form friendships with. I do love your blog and am glad I found you in this big wide bloggy world :)

Happy weekend!

{cuppakim} said...

i love this post. :) (even without pictures! your OCD can rest!)

i know the feelings you are talking about - i love validations through others. but i was talking to jess about it the other day - telling her how I am just so happy with the friends I DO have, who are sweet, and kind, AND real.

I'd rather have three like you than a thousand with no connection. :)

you are a great blogger, and an even sweeter PERSON. :)

the lowes said...

beautifully said. love you blog friend!

Kelly said...

Jami... great post i love it! Your words are always so beautiful.
Seriously I Love You Friend! Lets hang out For Reals!

Mrs. T said...

Such a great post! I love that you shared this!
I am always comparing myself to others as I am new in the blogosphere. (Just started a month ago!)
Right now, I have very few followers... 71 to be exact. With anywhere from 25-100 views a day. Yeah. Not too many! ha ha... But I know the point of it isn't all about the numbers. That changes over time, anyways. (Or so I hope! ha)

Natalie said...

What a great post! It is so nice to get supporting comments from the blog world. Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your sweet comments!

karen said...

another great post by sweet Jami! :) love it and love you!

Breeann said...

This is great! It's so true. We need to be more encouraging to each other. I always love comments like that, too! You are a blessing!!

Kimberlee Haag said...

Love this Jami - thanks for the reminder :) I can't believe how many times God will bring me to a blog that I just happened to need in that moment of that day (often thru following some of your recommended blogs). I hope God can use my blog for that purpose too! XoXo

Shanda said...

I love this as I have also noticed some competitiveness that takes some of the joy out of blogging with friends. So...I will start encouraging more and more!

hannah singer said...

BAM.
thanks for always being a leader and excellent encourager-you inspire me. isn't blogging nuts!? L O V E it.

also, you are beautiful!

Lindsay said...

love love love! such beautiful words! Rather than trying to compare myself to other bloggers, I use their successes as inspiration. I just love the encouraging community of bloggers that I have found and continue to find. It so crazy that people who you've never even met can be so sweet :) ... I'm your newest follower

The Planet Pink said...

Found you through a friend. Lovely post. Words of truth. Looking forward to reading more!

BARBIE said...

I agree! The woman I have met (although only a couple face to face) through blogging have been some of the most encouraging and prayer forces in my life. We could all use a little encouragement along life's highway!

Nessa said...

Oh Jami, you crack me up... I hope you slept well. THis was a wonderful post. These ladies in the bloggy world lift me up and enhance my spirit. You do it all the time Jami. Thank you.

stefbarcus said...

love

Rach (DonutsMama) said...

I agree. I was so encouraged last week after pouring my heart out. Encouraged and amazed. Because I am one of those people who compares myself--a lot. Wondering why everyone else seems to have it together while I don't. I do this with blogging, with my real life, on and on. But I'm slowly finding my way and learning that quality is what matters.

Denise said...

this is a great post. really.

i've rolled in and out of the bloggy comparison game (who hasn't). when i roll in i try hard to roll out. i aim to remember what i've gained in blogville! a fellow blogger once said, "some of my best friends live in the computer" and that rings so true of blogville for me.

i am encouraged by this community of women. i also have the opportunity to encourage/come along side in this community. the give and the take is beautiful. a blessing.

may God continue to be glorified!

Cyndi@Walking in His Grace said...

What an encouraging post!! You are so right, we don't need to compare ourselves with others in blogland. I have been blessed to meet so many amazing christian women. I love having friends all over the U.S.
Thanks for joining my linky party!
Blessings,
Cyndi

Carrie Beth said...

You are definitely right. I do not write my blog for others as much as for me. It is such a release and "therapy" for me. It is also a way to chronicle things that happen in our family so I don't forget! It is always nice to have someone take the time to comment or send me an email about a post, though. I need to remember to comment on others' posts more often so they too can "feel the love!".