Monday, March 5, 2012

"we encourage" - Make Him Glad




                                                                               Source: Uploaded by user via Jami on Pinterest


I saw this on Pinterest {where else} the other day and it really gave me a gut check.

That moment when you read something and you feel just a bit convicted.

I'm not 100% sure what Hubby would say if I asked him whether or not he was always "glad to come home".
What would your Hubby say?
Of course, I don't think any of us could pull this off at all times. That is not why I was feeling convicted. My concern was more about how much thought I give that at all.  How often during a hard day do I stop and think about how he will feel when he walks through the door of the place that should be his sanctuary?
Maybe not often enough.
I try to have most of the toys picked up, and hopefully I'm preparing some kind of meal for everyone. The part that may not always be present is doing it with joy. What good does it do me to have a clean house and dinner on the table if my attitude does not show joy in having him home?
I am very lucky. Hubby is home for dinner most nights. We sit together as a family over a meal most nights. I think I've been taking that for granted.
So, here is what I am going to do.

Ask him.

Ask him what I can do to make sure when he walks through that door he feels cherished and respected , as he should. 
I remember years ago I asked him that question and the one thing I got was "clean underwear". What? That's right, it makes him feel loved to have a drawer full of clean underwear. That's not so hard. I have never forgotten that request and I try really hard to make sure he has that. 
I know, I'm almost like Wonder Woman.

I encourage all of us to show our love and appreciation for the men God has given us. Even when it's hard to do.
Read that graphic again...

If we can work on the former, we will most certainly effect the latter.







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17 comments:

carina@a punk, a pumpkin and a peanut said...

oh jami, this is so good for me to read. so often i just wonder, "where the heck is HE? doesn't he know i need some back up?", when in all reality he is working hard for our family all day long. he deserves so much more gratitude than i give. thanks for this reminder!!

Erin Ledbetter said...

Such a great reminder, Jami...of course we want home to be the place that he looks forward to at the end of the day! Our attitude MATTERS!!! Although we all can falter, this is great to keep in the forefront! Thanks!

hannah singer said...

whew. so timely.
just this morning, i started fresh with patrick. we have been AT WAR. nearly silently though. we allowed our cirumctances to frazzle us and make a wide distance between us. praise jesus we were simultaneously convicted and were able to forgive and open communication again today! IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL DAY. not circumstances, but our hearts were fixed on jesus and on serving one another in LOVE.
i am gonna make him glad this week! and on and on!

thanks for this awesome post, dear friend. love you!

kaylee@life chasers said...

LOVED this post. Sometimes it's really just as simple ad asking. Putting him first wouldn't always be my first option but I'm finding more each day that the key is really just preferring the other person.

Katie said...

i love that quote! I want to work to remember that and make that a goal!

Stephanie said...

Love this...such wisdom that Martin Luther and you have today for us wives. I can still remember my momma going to our bathroom and breaking out her lipstick and powder to freshen up every afternoon. I knew that meant my daddy would be coming home any minute....that has impacted my marriage to this very day.

Karen said...

This is so great! Such a wonderful reminder on where to keep our priorities and what we can do to always improve our relationships.

Rheana said...

How crazy is this: Yesterday I posted something very similar to this with that exact picture from pinterest! I posted a few encouraging verses that I am turning to this week to help me be a better, welcoming wife. Maybe they will inspire you, too!

EverythingIam-blogspot.blogspot.com said...

Just heard this at the Titus 2 workshop I went to on Saturday!

This was a quote from Titus 2- Our husband's greatest love need is to be respected for who he is and what he does.

Laurie J said...

clean underwear, that's awesome! great post, jami. it's so easy to forget those seemingly little things we can do to strengthen our marriages.
<3

the lowes said...

so good Jami. i need to ask myself that to "am I doing it with JOY?" because I know he certainly comes home (more often than not these days with a toddler, newborn and exhausted mommy) to NOT much joy. Thats grieves my heart. Thanks for writing this out for us...Im gonna be dwelling on this with the Lord today! love you....

Handbags*N*Pigtails said...

Over the past few years I've realized just how selfish a person/wife I am. I always have such high expectations of him(& hes great at doing things with a cheerful heart) yet when he needs something I'm too busy/tired/whatever...
I needed to hear this.
Miss you!

Amanda said...

David and I revisit this topic every now and then. It helps us interact with each other in a way that expresses how much we value each other. :)

Thanks for the post - and for hosting!

Kara @ Just1Step said...

This is great - it is definitely easy to get so caught up in kids and home life that we forget about pleasing our husbands and making the home a sanctuary for them. Thanks for the reminder. :)

theolivetree said...

love this post :)

Marie said...

this is an insightful post...

my dear husband lavishes on me. loves to spoil me. delights to make me smile! sometimes it is so easy to fall into just letting him do for me and soak it all up! it is so very important when you are married to a giving person to remember to fill their tanks as well. do for the other person and pleasing them is a very important tool to use to cultivate love as well as stave off selfishness.
thanks for the reminder:)

Tannita said...

I try to always think about this when I stress out about something and want to nit pick when he comes home :)